They say that 95 percent of our self-talk is constantly the same. We just repeat the same things to ourselves over and over. It’s like being stuck on the same radio station, with the same music playing day in and day out. It’s the head DJ.
Often, we’re not even aware of what we’re saying inside. But part of us is. Part of our brain is listening attentively to everything that we say. It’s reacting to whether all that inner chatter is negative or positive, whether it is encouraging and kind, or critical and discouraging.
Some of the things I tell myself I would never say to another person. NEVER. It would be unthinkable that I would be so cruel, and so dismissive. There are some voices that I have inside who say the most unbearable things.
They tell me I am unworthy.
They tell me I am to blame for most anything that happens around me.
They tell me there is something wrong with me.
They tell me I am not safe in this world and that I have to constantly be on watch.
Before I didn’t notice what I was saying. It was my normal. Now, I notice when these voices pipe up, when they have been triggered into action. That gives me a chance to do something about it. Now when they pop up, they don’t get the amount of air time that they used to get.
Now, I’ll calmly switch to another station, listen to another head DJ who is more in line with what I want in my life, and who I want to be. It’s a decision I make over and over again, just like I get to decide what I want to watch on Netflix.
When I fall off the wagon and fall back into negative self-talk, I get right back on as soon as I can. I’ll tell you why. I want to be on board because I’ve set my wagon in the direction of self-love, self-empowerment, inner peace, and well-being. That’s my intention, that’s my destination. That’s whom I want to be with myself and others, and that’s what I want to offer the world. I don't know how long it will take to get there, but it's ok cause I'm on my way.
You too can set your destination. Who do you want to be? How do you want to live? Your self-talk can be your ally in getting you there.
I am responsible for what I say, for how I will choose to move forward, for whom I want to become.
Thank you for reading!