Dr Joe Dispenza says at the end of one of his guided meditations: “And be satisfied with your efforts.” When I first heard it, it really hit me hard. Sometimes at the end of a meditation, I’m criticizing myself because my mind drifted away at some point, or I felt I could have tried harder. Which is kind of funny because it goes against the whole point of meditation.
I realized that I wasn’t satisfied with my own efforts in many aspects of my life. I often felt rushed, like I needed to hurry up so that I could do more. At the end of each day, I generally felt unsatisfied with what I’d done and who I was.
Let’s look at the concept of satisfaction. Synonyms of satisfaction are contentment, pleasure, happiness, sense of well-being, pride, sense of achievement, delight, joy.
Having any kind of relationship with someone who cannot be satisfied is exhausting and draining. Nothing is ever good enough for them. I know that I really don’t enjoy spending time with someone who cannot be satisfied whether that’s a lover, friend, boss or neighbor. It’s discouraging.
And that includes my relationship with myself. I was discouraging myself with my own self-talk. That’s a hard way to be inside to be unsatisfied with one’s own efforts.
I’m choosing to change that.
Now, I’ve started telling myself that whatever I did that day, it’s good enough, and I’m good enough. I’m satisfied. Instead of trying to cram in one more thing, I let myself have a little more free time and space to just breathe and be. Also, whatever I did, whatever decision I took, that was my best effort. That was as good as I got in that moment. My best varies widely and wildly from day to day. That’s just what being human does to a person.
I haven’t been practicing this very long, but already I feel more happiness with myself, more calm, more wanting to be with me.
My self-talk:
I am satisfied with my own efforts.
I am good enough.
That was my best effort at that moment. Maybe next time I can do even better.
Just be yourself, your full glorious and unique self.
I love you just as you are this moment. You beautiful perfectly imperfect person.
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